What keeps people from acting out against or attempting to ruin other people’s lives? Generally morals right? But for those that do not have morals, at least the embarrassment of feeling ashamed of yourself should your actions be revealed. My parents always taught me that if you can’t stand by the truth of your actions without the shame of abandoning your morals or fear of embarrassment, then you should think twice before committing those actions.
(Before moving on, I want to be clear that I am not insinuating that any one person is “moral-less.” I am merely gathering a thought after hearing so many horrendous stories from you all that involve attempts to alienate children from parents or financially ruin an ex-partner with the use of money, power, and abuse of the system.)
Just as I suspected, a cease and desist letter surfaced because I spoke out. It wasn’t sent directly to me, but was sent to my husband’s former attorney. (Also want to note, my husband’s former attorney is incredible! There just has to be a point where you decide, enough is enough financially.) I do not currently have an attorney.
I have been told that a good defense is the truth. Trust that I have been extremely diligent to share the bold truth and my personal opinions only, on the situation. Unfortunately, I had just scratched the surface of our story before this ”cease and desist” was brought to my attention.
I write a third exclusive, despite the cease and desist, because the way I see it, we would have a target on our back regardless, so I might as well reveal the ugly truth of what can happen in special situations where one party is positioned in such a way that they have unlimited legal support.
I was going to send screenshots of the cease and desist with names removed, however I noticed a confidentiality clause at the bottom of the email. Because I want to be completely legal in everything that I share, I decided not to share photos of the cease and desist.
In the letter it said that blogging and instagram posts about (Insert Name) are libelous in nature and were done in a manner that is actionable. These posts have caused embarrassment, emotional distress, and extreme anxiety. (I am thinking ”WELCOME TO MY WORLD…” Sorry, that is my only catty remark.) The letter goes on to say that I am not to include Greg’s son in any images or Instagram stories and that all posts regarding my account of our experience with this case and images of our son should be removed immediately. It also goes on to say that it is astounding that Greg would “allow” (yes it said allow) me to be his surrogate mouth piece and that I should cease this type of behavior, or else. The email was several paragraphs long, but these were the main points.
In the email, the attorney claims that I am my husband’s mouth piece. Let the truth be known, my husband has advised me to stay silent for over a year. I stand my ground as a mouth piece to all, like me, who are also helpless and stomped down due to the abuse of our system by people positioned to have a legal advantage. I am a woman that can’t just sit idly and watch people with advantages abuse the system and attempt to intimidate or bully a powerless person into being their dancing monkey. I will not dance.
In the email, I am referred to Mr. Nolan’s ”present wife,” as if there were another wife, or Ms. (instead of Mrs.) Nolan. This is how I have been referred to the entire trial and in every document sent by the opposing counsel. They even questioned the authenticity of our marriage license the first day of trial. The reference to me as Ms. or ”present wife” could be a major grammatical error that keeps reoccurring, but my guess is that it is yet another attempt to diminish me. A tactic used by, what seems to be, bitter counsel. I find it absolutely amusing and makes for fabulous dinner conversation. While this seems extremely petty for an attorney to do, I believe that these slight jabs are tactics used to ruffle the feathers of innocent bystanders, such as myself.
We are currently appealing all charges in which my husband was found guilty and will hopefully have an outcome in a few months for you!
These series of posts are not an attempt to denigrate, demean or intentionally cause embarrassment to any party. This is merely an attempt to reveal the injustices that happen to every day people like us which are aimed to wreck lives, cause financial ruin, and maximize anxiety to the point that hopeless people will just give up on their lives, or even worse, their children.
I will await a formal and polite ”cease and desist” sent directly to me before I consider removing my truthful account of everything that we have been through.
I am heart broken and fueled by so many of the stories that you all have shared and am sadly shocked to know that Greg and I are not alone. I have decided to cease telling any more of my story for now, however a documentary reached out to me this week and there is a possibility that I will be a spokesperson on the truth of how injustices, such as these, can destroy lives. With that being said, I have shared enough of my story, but I am ready to share yours!
Please continue to email me your stories. As I have done with my story, I will not use names but may use these stories to help compile my piece in the documentary.