The house looks like a mess. The week was busy and felt like forever, but it’s finally done. And you still have people coming over the weekend. Where do you even start? Do you start with cleaning up the living room? The residue stain on the couch from yesterday’s curry bowl really does not match the carpet. Or do you get food and snacks for the guests? What about that ole’ grill outside? It’s not a bad idea to throw a couple of steaks and have a barbecue. Is it going to rain?
Too much thinking can make your brain spin and forget about why you even invited the people over in the first place. But yeah, having people over doesn’t need to be complicated. Stop judging so hard and approach it with just a little bit of intention.
What Actually Makes a Party Feel Good
What makes it feel good is the spotlessly clean house.
Well, not exactly, it’s true to an extent, nobody wants to go into a home that’s the equivalent of a Pollock painting. On the other hand, nobody needs a laboratory level of cleanness either. Tidy up a bit, make sure it’s presentable, get some fresh air inside, and that’s it.
Unless you’re having a themed party, which takes a bit more preparation, if you’ve never hosted one, you should consider it; it can be a lot of fun.
Whatever you decide to do, it’s not a bad idea to dust off some games or find activities that can be used as an icebreaker. Look for the ones that can start a conversation and make you engaged. Charades is one of the classics, or, depending on who is coming over, maybe some Cards Against Humanity is a frisky choice.
If you don’t have anything lying around the house, you can always go with two truths and a lie. With all that, we still have not touched upon the most important part of the party. You. The host. It doesn’t matter whether the floor is clean if the guests aren’t seen.
Being relaxed and present helps everyone do the same, making this gathering a great memory. And even if you were to host a luxurious party, the core idea stays the same.
The Prep Plan That Keeps You Calm
Instead of thinking of what to do, a good approach is to think of what you are not going to do.
Don’t try to reach for your inner Gordon Ramsey and attempt to roast a duck for the first time in your life. It’s definitely not the time for that bookmarked YouTube feng shui rearrangement tutorial, because you think it might have a better flow of energy.
Think about whether you’re going to make food at home or if it’s a snack-type party. Wipe and dust off the surfaces people will use, and clean the bathroom a bit.
Keep it simple. You don’t need to keep making adjustments before the guests arrive. Let the house be, and focus on you. Put some music on while dressing up for the party and let the good vibes happen.
Having An Outdoor Party
In nice-looking weather, why not put on the barbecue apron and move the party outside? This way, you can showcase your new steak grilling skills.
But you think to yourself, what if it rains? Do I stay and cook the steak or go inside? Do I cancel the whole party? There are things to consider when having the party outside.
If you’re in a place where the weather is changing nonstop, it’s good to know when it is going to change. Besides having a news reporter tell you if you should pack up your umbrella, find a weather app with a detailed description of the current weather.
Any weather or event-planning tools with a built-in real-time weather conditions API will help to track if the conditions change. It helps you plan better because you can see it changing by the minute, in real time. You can decide if you want to stay outside grilling or move the party back in.
If we can all laugh, eat something a bit too greasy, and have a few drinks to forget about the week for a few hours, then it was a great party. You don’t have to prove anything. Well, sometimes you do. Sometimes you even want to. But are you absolutely required to? No.
The imaginary pressure we sometimes put on ourselves to ‘make everything right’ has nothing to do with what our guests care about. They showed up for you and to have a good time. Not to see if the new couch fits in well with your coffee table in the living room.
The party will feel good if the host feels good too. Be present and give people the most valuable currency of our time. Attention. Create a feeling where everyone can be themselves, and people are going to remember that.
So, slap that meat on the BBQ or order a takeout. Clean the floors or don’t. Remember that ‘good enough’ is more than enough.
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